​Coaching is a unique profession. For a short period, a coach witnesses what is most meaningful and essential in the life of their clients. That is a special privilege. The coach is not an expert but assumes that clients already have all the answers, strengths, and possibilities. And coaching, in that sense, is the process of together bringing those forces to the surface. A coach constantly searches for the easiest and best way to improve. This positive turnaround often takes place within a few weeks. A small change in someone’s life can make a significant change over the years. Being able to contribute to that process is very valuable. People who, for whatever reason, get stuck in their lives often benefit significantly from personal guidance from a coach or counselor.

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Worldwide, all organizations representing the coaching field use different definitions of coaching. This is because there are many various forms of coaching. On the one hand, they want to find an explanation that encompasses all forms of coaching. On the other hand, they want to see a definition that clearly shows the difference between coaching and forms of support, such as therapy and training.

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The definition of coaching for me is as follows:

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Coaching is a constructive, equal way of conducting conversations in which the coachee himself bears responsibility for developing potentially present competencies. This process occurs by detecting and removing resistance and becoming aware of existing knowledge, skills, and talents.

Coaching is a structured, goal-oriented, and future-oriented process in which the coach in an interactive way (including by observing, questioning, confronting, and mirroring) encourages increasing the effectiveness of the other by:

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• Awareness and personal growth

• Increasing self-confidence

• Exploring, developing, and applying one’s possibilities

 

Central to every coaching process is the coachee’s conviction that he has qualities, competencies, and possibilities that can improve a situation or the person of the coachee. There is already something present in the coachee (or client) that only needs a chance to come to fruition. This belief in human quality is at the heart of all forms of coaching.

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Each person’s map of the world is as unique as their thumbprint. There are no two people alike. No two people understand the same sentence the same way… So in dealing with people, you try not to fit them into your concept of what they should be

– Milton Erickson

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Every coach is first and foremost human. You enter into a human relationship with your client. My client and I must be present and willing to ‘meet’ each other. By being present, I mean that you are involved with the other. That you have an eye for the other and that the other feels heard.

 

How to find yourself the right coach

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The following are guidelines for finding the right coach, therapist, or counselor who will usually be helpful rather than harmful. It’s up to you to decide if I am the right person to guide you on your personal development journey. Please consider the following guidelines to avoid doing more harm than good to yourself during your decision-making process.

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The right coach, therapist, or counselor will tend to have or be:

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• Demonstrable training and experience. For example, a coach or therapist has training and experience helping people grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and helping with specific problems or conditions.

• Not dogmatic, rigid, or judgmental.

• No promises of quick fixes or answers.

• While you sense that they genuinely respect you as a human being and your recovery and growth, they are firm enough to push you to do your healing work.

• During the therapy session, provide some of your needs (listening, mirroring, echoing, safety, respect, understanding, and accepting your feelings).

• Encourage and help you learn to find ways outside the therapy session to get your needs met healthily.

• They are well progressed in facing and healing their problems and issues.

• They do not use you to get their own needs met (this may be difficult to detect)

• You feel safe and relatively comfortable with them.

 

When a car drives on a dark road, the driver only sees the first hundred meters in front of him. Yet, he will reach his destination automatically if he continues to follow the route. Clients also make a difference in the provision of care. Often people see many things on the horizon that may be an obstacle to solving the problem. When one only focuses on these obstacles, change sometimes seems impossible. Then, the coach’s job is to ensure that the coachee does not look too far ahead. When the client takes one step at a time, he can solve problems one by one. In addition, some issues resolve themselves.

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Your entry point or trigger to finding a coach and making a change may range across a broad spectrum. It may start with hearing or reading someone describe their recovery or True Self, being “sick and tired” of suffering, or beginning to work seriously on another life problem that asks for your attention. For others, it may be attending a self-help meeting or an educational experience, reading a book, or hearing about it from a friend. But what it comes down to is that all those different reasons brought you here to find out more about how you may be able to provide happier life to yourself.

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Discover what I can do for you:

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